As the regulars to this blog will know I have been very inactive lately on posts. I attribute this to a lot of changes in my life. I have been battling some very serious stomach ailments of late and have had a new addition to the family as well. Makenzie was born on July 12th, 2013 and is our third child. Eli who was originally diagnosed with PDD-NOS but as been re-classified as Aspergers Syndrome, Zachary who has developed quite normally and made us realize a lot about what we missed when it came to Eli and now Makenzie who is developing even faster than Zachary. We are truly blessed.
I think it brings up a topic I would like to discuss with the reading audience: Realizing when something is wrong. This is a hard topic because nobody wants to think their child has a problem or is different, and more importantly to first time parents who do not have a sibling to compare to, seeing a problem is nearly impossible. So what is a parent to do? How do you know?
I think the answer really comes with whether or not you are asking the question. The reality is if you are concerned, even about the smallest thing you probably are picking up on something that is real and not imagined. So instead of being the proud parent and dismissing it to normal parental worry start asking yourself serious questions and looking at your child with an open mind. The best thing you can do is get help, the worst thing you can do is say they will outgrow it. Let me restate that a different way: Getting help early is the best chance at your child having a normal life. If you ignore the signs, are blind to the flashing red light or deaf to the sound of developmental delay you have done your child a tragic thing.
Parents. Look at your children. As the tough questions. Get the opinion of others, and do it soon. The best bet is to go through your school system to get help. Most states have amazing support systems available and be prepared to fight for your child’s right to services. Do not reject a diagnosis, welcome it and even if they are wrong, the support only accelerates your child in the complex process of social learning and traditional education. Remember a diagnosis is sealed, and there is no stigma to it.