This question is asked of me all the time and as a Dad I completely understand why a dad would reject the diagnosis of PDD-NOS of their child. It is a pride thing and this is not an uncommon event. It happens because the dad loves his child and refuses to think there is anything wrong. This is a totally honorable notion, but unfortunately it is completely misguided when it results in the parents not being on the same page and the support not given to the child.
I suffered with this myself. But my LOVE for my child won the day. I figured it this way. Nothing bad can come of Eli getting the kind of support the specialists, educators and therapists said my child needed. Even though at first I rejected the diagnosis, the support was only going to improve my boys life. He will be better socially, better academically and more responsible. I figured, how could that hurt?
Deep inside I knew there were issues. I just was being a dad. My kid is normal, my kid is perfect, and my kid does not need help. Once he started getting the help I didn’t expect to see the instant results which just reinforced the diagnosis. MY KID IS PERFECT, but he has Aspergers, originally diagnosed as PDD-NOS. That diagnosis does not make him less perfect, it makes him just need more love from me, his DAD.
To the father who is not accepting of the diagnosis. Continue to deny it in your head but give your son the therapy he needs. It will not hurt him, there is no social stigma about getting help, none of the other kids understand what is going on, and your child will grow and improve in the areas he is struggling with. This is a no brainer. If you love you kid, you provide the best of everything for them no matter what. You take your kids to the doctor when they don’t have a fever, You take them to the dentist even if they don’t have a cavity. You take your PDD-NOS child to therapy so when he is 16 he interacts, socializes, learns and becomes a man. If you deny him services you risk his ability to have an independent life. Whether you think he has a problem or not, is it worth that risk? Suck it up, swallow your pride and get your child help. There are only positives that result from it.
Any father can call me. Any dad can write me, and any dad can cry openly me over their child diagnosis. There is no shame, no judgement, no laughing. OUR KIDS DESERVE THE BEST CHANCE AT A POSITIVE LIFE. That is all you need to gain out of this. Give the kid the chance to have a life by getting help at an early age.